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The Takoma Park, Md.-based editor and author, who’s
day job is being a sign language interpreter, began work on
the anthology about 12 years ago.
“I wanted to hear other women’s voices on this,”
Shaw said. “But there wasn’t anything out there…nothing.”
Then, Shaw recounts, a friend of a friend sent her a poem
about incest, and the author says knowing that someone else
out there was interested in reading about the painful subject
was “immediately heartening.” After that first
poem, Shaw began calling for contributors – writers,
poets, artists – to contribute to an anthology of writing
and visual art works.
She said that close to 100 women sent submissions, many sending
more than one. And, said Shaw, submissions are still arriving
even though the book was published last November.
Reading through Not Child’s Play is, to say the least,
extremely hard. The detailed essays are truly heart-wrenching,
and leave the reader not only with a feeling of utmost respect
for the women who have decided to share their past, but many
questions as well. Why, especially with a heightened public
awareness around child abuse, hasn’t there been more
coverage on this subject? Shaw answers from personal experience.
“Even though brother-sister incest is very widespread,
it gets dismissed… it become normalized, in a way, so
people don’t see it for what it is,” said Shaw.
“It’s not adolescent sexual play. It’s about
power, coercion … but because the perpetrator and the
victim are children, people don’t see it as violence.”
Shaw also said many dismiss this type of abuse as “boys
will be boys.”
But when Shaw pulled the curtain back on her past, she shattered
the silence through art.
“Silence is a tool of abuse that helps perpetuate it,”
she said. “But being able to express yourself in any
medium helps you to see. Being able to speak your voice is
incredibly powerful.”
One of the most interesting and touching parts of Shaw’s
anthology are the photos of the “Incest Survivor Action
Figures” created by Shaw and her friends. The idea,
said Shaw, started out as a joke – friends said Shaw
could use the figures as marketing gimmicks. But the joke
soon turned into a method for healing.
Using old Barbie and Ken dolls, clay, magic markers, “found
objects,” doll clothes, and other items, the author
and her friends sculpted the powerful looking dolls, gave
them names, and personalities. One example is “Bugle,”
a leather-clad doll with a red Mohawk and a silver horn “who
blows the trumpet and stops the incest.” Shaw said the
dolls are the “embodiment of survival.”
After finishing the anthology five years ago, Shaw sent it
to more than 60 publishers, but no one wanted to pick it up.
So she decided to publish it by herself by creating her own
publishing outlet, Lunchbox Press.
Shaw said that she has received letters in response to her
book from men and women, victims and perpetrators, husbands
of survivors, mental health professionals, and others.
“It’s not easy to think about … putting
myself out there, exposing what happened to me and my family,”
she said. “But it’s been one of the best things
I’ve done.”
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